When you learn that your spouse wants a divorce and no longer wants to be in the marriage, your first reaction is to try to talk, apologize and beg your spouse for forgiveness. Right? At least, it was the case for me. This is a knee-jerk reaction to a desperate situation. If you want to learn how to save your marriage, you should first avoid these.Unfortunately, the things that led our spouses to want a divorce haven’t happened overnight. Whatever they are, they build up over time, until the spouse decides it’s not wise to try to go on. Since they haven’t appeared from nowhere overnight; they can’t be gotten rid of overnight. This is not how you save your marriage.Yes, I saved my marriage but it wasn’t by those reactions I gave. I must say that such things actually pushed him further away from me.What I did to save my marriage in the end was; following some outside advice and acting according to them. They told me to lay back, calm down – those will enable you to look at everything from a wider perspective, they said. I was mad with desperation – I wanted something that would quickly fix my marriage. Trying to calm down was so counter-intuitive!that’s why so many marriages end. If you want to save your marriage, you HAVE to do those counter-intuitive things. And because people always go with their intuitions, they end up doing the wrong things to save their marriage, and then a divorce is inevitable.
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