There are many reasons why a marriage may break up, but none of them is more egregious or hurtful than when one spouse is cheating on the other. If you are reading this article, you may be suspicious of new behavior that your spouse is exhibiting and you may believe that an affair is the reason why.However, no matter how nonchalant your spouse may try to be, there are telltale signs that you can look for before you start to make accusations.Signs that Point to an AffairSome of the first signs when a spouse is cheating is the amount of time that they are away from the house. If you notice that there has been distance growing between you and your spouse and suddenly, they are spending much more time at work or the office, you might have a cause for concern. In addition, if they are making spontaneous plans at the last moment, that do not include you, there may be a valid reason behind your suspicions.Next, if you suddenly notice them making changes in their appearance or start doing things that are not normal to enhance themselves physically, an affair may be the reason why. Be on the look out for trips to tanning salons, expensive gym memberships or large clothing purchases, especially in the area of sexy lingerie or underwear. If this is not normal behavior for your spouse, they could have someone that they are trying to look good for.Be Aware of Changes in BehaviorThere are also many signs that will start to show up if your spouse is having an affair that will be subtle. For instance, if you know that the soap that you use in your house is one brand and he or she is showing up at the end of the day smelling of an unfamiliar soap, be aware that they may have showered off the smells of the person that they are seeing. Also, if you smell unfamiliar cologne or perfume, you have a reason to be suspicious.Next, check your bank accounts and see if there have been changes in spending. Look for clues that they have either been spending money or extra time at locations or at stores that they are not known to frequent. In addition, consider the schedule that they are telling you, where they say they have been and who they have been with and see how it checks out to the money spent on those particular occasions. If their actions are not adding up fiscally, there could be a problem.A cheating spouse is a painful experience to have to deal with, pay attention to what is happening around you and decide for yourself if you want to save your marriage or if it is time to call it quits.
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