Are there dozens, maybe even hundreds, of marriage secrets out there to be found and acted upon, so we can all have the perfect relationship? If so, and there is one ‘secret’ which stands out above all the others, can someone please inform us what it is?After the ‘honeymoon’ period is over, what a lot of couples look for is the secret, or secrets, that will make sure they can stay together – forever. The reality is this; there is only ONE marriage ‘secret’ – but more on that shortly!However, there are some vital things that can make all the difference to helping you grow your lives together in (near) perfect harmony. All it takes is to be focused on the elements that matter most – and they’re worth much more than money, or what money can buy!Let’s look more closely at a few of the things that matter most:Commitment. It’s vital that you always work on being committed to your relationship. It should be the most important priority you have. A relationship is something you have to work at and it needs consideration, coupled with effort, if it is to blossom and mature. Just as a beautiful flower needs care and attention to stop it from wilting and dying, so do we in our relationships!Everyone is busy these days, but make time to spend quality time with each other, whenever you can. For example, if both of you go out to work, try booking special times in your schedule to do things with each other you both enjoy. Perhaps you could have a meal at home together where you can relax and enjoy each other’s company, or you could find a restaurant you both like and eat out.If you can do that at least once a week you will both benefit from the chance to communicate and reinforce your commitment to each other. ‘Money’ just can’t buy commitment, any more than money can buy you true love, but making some space for ‘quality time’ in your busy schedule can really show how committed you are to your partner, which is much more valuable, even priceless.Also, remember to celebrate each other’s achievements too, and support each other, especially if one of you is having a tougher time than usual. Do your very best to support your partner in situations when their life is being a bit tough on them; and always try to be empathetic when they might need you most. Just being there when you’re needed will be so much appreciated by your partner – much more than you realize.Another key ingredient is… romance. Keeping the romance alive is good for both of you! All relationships generally start out by being ‘romantic’ in the early days but, as the time goes by, it’s possible to be distracted by the myriad of other things; work, paying the bills, giving the kids the attention they need, or just doing the household chores, to name just a few.Whatever you do, don’t get in to the habit of taking each other for granted; it can be the death knell. Make your partner feel exclusive by doing something passionate, no matter how small. Perhaps you could, when you have the time, make your partner breakfast and serve it to them whilst they’re in bed. As an alternative, make a ‘date’ for a very special night out, or maybe you can go off to walk in a place you both love, or just pack a picnic with some of your favorite food and drink. that little special something that adds the sparkle of romance for both of you.At the beginning I mentioned the marriage secret… just what is it? Well, it’s so simple; there is NO marriage secret, as such, but being committed to each other is as close as you can come to the secret.By paying attention to the detail and being committed you can have a marriage that lasts forever. And you can keep the romance alive by showing how much you love and care for your partner! And that’s so much more valuable than all the money in the world isn’t it!
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